Purple Ink Crowd -- Listen Up!!
try to wrap your tiny minds around this:
Someone has noticed that “self esteem” without responsibility is like having a three martini breakfast—it might feel good but if ya do it, yer probably useless and definitely dangerous. Know who has lots of self-esteem and high self regard? Sociopaths. Narcissists. Jeffrey Daumer, Ted Bundy and Denis Rader [BTK] all think [thought] very highly of themselves—so highly that they were, in their own minds, above the law. Bullies, drug ‘king-pins,’ and mafioso hit men also have high self-esteem.
Ya know what they don’t have? The ability to tolerate frustration and to delay gratification. Without those, no one can can hang in long enough to achieve the real deal; self-respect.
Wanna know how to generate self respect? Pick something difficult and accomplish it. Repeat. That’s all there is to it.
Oh, and here’s the part that gets those purple-inkers’ panties in a bunch—if ya don’t actually accomplish the goal, ya don’t get the prize. No pay-off. No nuttin’ ‘cept maybe a little hard-won experience and notes on where not to step next time. “Try” gets no prizes.
After a while, you build trust with yourself and a respect for what you can accomplish. You develop an appreciation for your talents, skills and places where ya got no skills. Accepting the places where you’re never going to be all that skilled is as important as recognizing the parts where you’re naturally talented.
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